Scripture Reference: I Corinthians 13:4-7 Love beareth all things

It is well understood that the parties in a marital relationship usually do not like to be wrong. We both like to hang on to our rights, and point the finger at each other for situations that arise in our relationships. We often hear comments like: "if he would just admit that he is wrong we would have the best life",-or if she would stop acting like she rules, then we could have a great marriage". But once both parties realize that the key to a successful marriage is giving up your own right, then this becomes a stepping stone to the future of the relationship.

Some marriage couples have thought: why won't my wife or husband see their ways and turn- so we can have the marriage that God have ordained? The truth is-looking into giving away your right will most often result in a stronger relationship. Giving up your right will leave your partner speechless, it will sooth the wound of hurt caused by angry words.

The Bible says that it is better to give than to receive. In a relationship we often want to be the receiver and not the giver. But being the giver will break the bonds and chains of division; and make way for the love you have for each other to flourish. Marital life is not about gain, but rather it is to love, cherish, and give of oneself. The couple that gives away their rights will be better able to confide in each other, because the fear of "Who's going to give in" have disappeared. And the understanding of: "we both need to give up" to win each other will make the marriage stronger.

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About the AuthorName: Guerline ReidLocation: Georgia, USA Guerline Reid is a dedicated Christian, wife, and mother of three children. She regularly writes articles for Harvesters Online, a Christian resource website found at Harvesters Online . She co-authored Creating Unbreakable Bonds: Marital Intimacy on Three Levels with her husband. Her greatest joy is to fulfill God's purpose for her life, and to serve her family with virtue.